Mark is a successful Pasadena (Los Angeles County)Family Lawyer who is getting the word out that this system chews up families. Not surprisingly (sadly) I hear from him that my fellow collab lawyers here in good old Orange County seem upset. (They are not big on ugly truths in OC... which is a large part of why I got out of the game here.)
This is the latest on his crusade, which I applaud:
The change is slow--but it is beginning.
I get an occasional publication from the California State Bar section for solo firms. (I actually only joined it so I could get access to the regs for paralegals because I was teaching "Paralegal Studies" at ITT Tech. A joy I will not go into here.)
I always read these pubs, because I am always curious to know what the legal profession is up to, even when I am mostly avoiding DOING what they are up to.
Mark seems to feel exactly as I do about the mess that is divorce in our California courts so I am ""blogging" his blog.
I have not read Phil's new book but I have known Phil for many years--I am even "in" one of his wonderful Books; "Soul Moments, Stories of Meaningful Synchronicity in a Seemingly Random World."
But the "blurbs" for this book have convinced me I should share them--and buy the book!
This post from mediate.com is a must read:
Carroll Straus June 1999/January2011
“I am the great and powerful Oz...” said the little man behind the screen. Oops! The curtain slipped, and it was--- a mere man! Oh, what a dreadful discovery! How much happier Dorothy was when she thought the wizard had the powers he pretended to have!
The moral of that tale, as we all know, is that although the resources Dorothy sought were not to be granted by the wizard’s awesome power, they were... within her.
A divorce is not a punishable offense. It is a change in legal status, but when people get married, they don’t do it because they wish to change their legal status--it just happens as an unnoticed side effect of what is quite often a religious ceremony.
People get married because they WANT to love and be loved until they are parted by death. Sadly, many won't have that experience--but it is what they want and what they think they are entering into.
There is no disclaimer anywhere that says "Big Brother has just laid his clammy hand on you. Try to undo this at your peril."