:Jurors who have suffered through the silence often have post-traumatic stress symptoms, nightmares and dreams, spontaneous crying and depression, even thoughts of suicide. Recognizing those symptoms and being told where to seek help is vital, Covey said.
Lawyers who listen to their clients' stories,and see gruesome photos etc. suffer from secondary trauma too! When will we stop pret4ndig we are invulnerable???
A quote: "When you think of it, even without the modern marital problems of passionlessness and divorce I detailed above, marriage is a really bad deal for a woman. She has to give up her name, literally. She has kids and compromises her figure. She gets saddled with eighty percent of the housework. She often gives up her career as she becomes a Mom. Who would be stupid enough to accept this lousy offer?
I just tried to post this as part of an ongoing discussion with a very disillusioned litigant on the ABA site... I suspect they won't post so here it is:
FF I agree with you that the adversarial system makes it possible in most cases for one party to drive an entire case. But there are other tools-- see, e.g. "Aikido: Life Lessons from an American Sensei" by George Leonard.
But this perceived "reality" is not the true reality any more than is was when Einstein discovered E=MC squared" while his peers were arguing about molecules.
See also (and there I put this website.) and some stuff about problems and the mindset that created it etc.
Although Aron says divorce is sometimes a "joy" that is not quite true--that is only temporary. What she fails to note is that even conflict is a form of intimacy-- and one that many of us have FAR more of then we do the nice kind we all LOVE to read about. In "Ethical Persuasion" Tom Rusk M.D. and D. Patrick Miller point out that most have us (humans not HSPs) have never been properly loved and we really can't bear it for long... I HIGHLY recommend that book to ALL.
OK this is written using California's arcane support calculations but Mark makes a VERY good point... even though Dads feel ripped off because the money paid seems to leave Mom better off than he is, she still is below the level needed to raise the children based on a federal study.
Now if we can just stop people treating marriage like we seem to treat so much-- as disposable...
Well, am not at all sure anyone is reading this, but in time maybe it will pop up on a search.
I have just made a shocking discovery!! I am not abnormal, of my tree/gourd/mind... or diagnosable per the S DSM IV-- I am... an "HSP." It seems some experts (Jim Hallowes, Elaine Aron) have been trying to tell the world about us for over a decade but the word is really not "out." and I quite assure you the legal profession is, at lest NOW, a strange place to find some one who is (and this is just a partial list:
1. Has an inborn deep appreciation of nature art and music:
2. Needs plenty of rest—teds to have insomnia (can lead to CFS)
3. Doesn’t like crowds or loud noises
4. Easily startled, awake easily due to cortisol
Pain feels like death.
These parts do fit within the profession:
1. Likes to feel in control likes structure
3. Strong commitment to justice
This is just what I tripped over see http://www.familyconstellations-usa.com/about.htm
"Family Constellations is a highly effective way of healing on a deeply felt energetic level, with long-term and often life changing results."
Sounds darn good to me!