heart and mind

This is on the fly-- I am still pondering this. I've not quite finished reading "Anatomy of Peace" which, happily. DOES offer some solutions. (More on the book when I finish it.)

I am still looking for a "way in"--a way to break the trances of anger and blame etc. all these writers address-- and which every single legal beagle has seen. Which we are, of course, also engaged in as a nation. We can see it in others... yet they cant see it as they battle on. But we are them and they are us.

And this trance of us and them and anger is temporarily suspended (or we pretend it is) in the "Christmas spirit". But why only then?

I think the key here is the HEART. The reason "Mistakes" was hard for me to read, I think, it is was all intellect. The solutions advocated in "Anatomy of Peace" involve feelings- and here I think we get closer to the "heart of the matter."But they have a group of people who have motives to hear what they say which we lawyers lack. So-- what is the key for US?

I am looking at those with whom I feel myself "at war" although I am literally tired tired tired of these feelings. And I see/feel that I have closed my heart in these cases. I feel the fear of the hurt I expect if I open it. I also feel the deadness of closing it.

I think all the philosophers and poets always knew the heart had its own intelligence: "le coeur a ses raisons". But now science is telling us the actual truth of this--the Institute of Heart Math and Bruce Lipton in particular.

No magic bullet yet... but there is something here I am getting close to...