I hear Carol Tavris speak at a wonderful discussion group in Santa Monica years ago: Somehow I just felt a need to finally buy the book "Mistakes Were Made(But not by Me) and read it. Now I am getting messages from the Universe -- the phrase "cognitive dissonance" keeps reoccurring everywhere I read, on conference calls... I am clearly supposed to get familiar with this concept (and the research) and how it affects me, my work and my clients.. and the toxic court system.
I have yet to complete the book--the examples of how commonly God awful things happen and are justified buy this aspect of how humans think is hard to plow through. I keep wanting to know WHAT DO WE DO ABOUT IT? And I keep asking myself "Have I done this? Do I do this?"
Hard to read and do this at the same time.
A quote: "When you think of it, even without the modern marital problems of passionlessness and divorce I detailed above, marriage is a really bad deal for a woman. She has to give up her name, literally. She has kids and compromises her figure. She gets saddled with eighty percent of the housework. She often gives up her career as she becomes a Mom. Who would be stupid enough to accept this lousy offer?