ritual
Unspoken truth about divorce-- and my maiden voyage in blog land!
I am a "divorce attorney." (Because divorce is about people not widgets...) I see people engage in the ritual combat of divorce every day. It never ceases to amaze me how their professed spiritual beliefs disappear the minute the start the ritual. It is sad, but it is because they enter a more powerful belief set. A more powerful archetype/
For make no mistake-- divorce IS a ritual. An unholy one, a destructive one... but a ritual. A VERY public ritual. For most people it is a ritual with far greater power than their private spiritual practice. I think this is part of what this movement, "cutting edge law" seeks to change.
You've seen it-- famous "gurus" and others we admire who end up in messy divorces.It is also sad that someone who made a particular spiritual practice part of their public persona to publicly abandon it... but it is NOT surprising. It is,of course, a collective phenomenon.
The healing presence of family and friends
When a group gathers with the intention of witnessing an uncoupling ritual, this moment brings all people together on the same emotional and spiritual page, so to speak. We have an opportunity to go within and feel our very painful emotions about this dismantling, our loss, anger and pain. Many of us know firsthand the pain of a breakup, either ours, one in our immediate family or a dear friends’.
In the emotional world, when given an opportunity to go within and connect with our feelings, there may be emotions that previously have been unacknowledged, emerge.
This is a profound healing moment, letting emotions flow freely through your body. This frees the energy from crystallizing and staying stuck in your body. MOVE THE FEELINGS. Feel them, move them.
The art of uncoupling ritual
The divorce papers have been signed. Now what? Where do the former partners and their family members go from here? They have all been through turmoil, the dismantling of a family, anger, pain, loss and uncertainly. Do we leave them in this state, or is there more, as professionals, we can do?
I believe in the power of healing. I believe in the power of ceremony. I believe in acknowledging emotions and bringing forgiveness and love to the lives of all touched by this divorce. There is something about a ritual that brings in wisdom that goes beyond our personalities. There is a power to gathering people with the intention of healing and then opening ourselves up to this sacred experience. Emotions are felt, hearts begin healing, inner peace happens.