The Evolution of Conflict Resolution

I am seeking to integrate Bruce Lipton's thesis that as we become conscious of how our subconscious drives our actions, we can become present in that moment and thus able to essentially re-program our subconscious to behave more in line with our conscious beliefs than our unconscious pre-6yo beliefs (e.g., parental programming, basically). I imagine that this schism between conscious and sub drives much of how we perceive and handle conflict. I can hardly imagine what conflict will be like once we awaken and evolve. Can you help me imagine?

For example, in domestic relations (my primary work in law) it is common for clients to tell me "I hope that you are right" (e.g., they hope that there IS hope, and a way for healing to occur), but in the next breath they tell me "I know that I am right about So-And-So" (e.g., they know that there is in fact NO hope, and that So-And-So will NEVER change). Of course these conversations usually devolve (puns intended) into recitations of who-did-what-to-whom-when, and who-is-wrong and who-is-right, and why the judge needs to punish somebody.

I often feel that if I had more skills and understanding, I could penetrate these negative false beliefs more easily.

I seek the thoughts and perspectives of anyone reading this post. Please feel FREE to share, whether it be your optimism or your pessimism, your own stories of false beliefs or your own stories of success in evolving false beliefs. Thanks in advance.