Conflict & Peace

At the breakfast table one morning I was having a loud conversation with significant other, listing his every fault, when I heard our tenants moving around downstairs. I was immediately embarrassed and ashamed, hoping they hadn’t heard. After all, we’re peacemakers, known for our wonderful skills in resolving conflict, helping people talk out their problems, etc. And I was yelling like a banshee.

A few days later, a therapist friend confessed that she’d thrown something at her significant other. She too felt embarrassed and ashamed. We each thought we were more “enlightened” than that.